This is a powerful and moving exploration of your self and tribute to your aunt. As Freud noted many years ago, when we lose someone very close to us, we often internalize parts of them and metabolize them to become parts of our self. So, in a very real sense, we have not lost them, they have not ceased to exist, they have simply assumed a different form of being.
this is so beautifully written. thank you for the glimpse into your aunt. she sounds like such a joy and i get the feeling i’d always have walked away from her a bit wiser and having a new perspective on something.
there is no right way to grieve, and i hope you hold grace for yourself as you navigate your own unique journey with it. just know that you are not alone in this experience. sending love and comfort to you and your family.
I feel this deeply and toss and turn with grief constantly. I thought when my Mom passed 2 years ago that I would know grief and how to handle it. I often told my therapist, I felt I was not far enough along in my grief, month after month. The truth is, there is no timeline and the little things will become the big things. It is “normal” and I often say to those that have also shared they have lost their mom, we should make a dead moms club. Not as a joke, but as a place to just be the parentless child for a minute with others. Grief is love with nowhere to go and I truly believe that. Know many people know what you are going through, but nobody will ever know exactly your experience. That’s okay. Ask for support and tell people what it looks like. The best thing anyone ever said to me, I will say to you: this sucks. No sorry for your loss, condolences etc - of course people are! But the real ones make so excuse for how shitty you feel. Lots of care to you and your family as you all grieve in your own ways AND as a collective.
going to share this with my cousin (her daughter). I appreciate it, and I think this will really resonate with her. thank you for sharing your experience <3
Wow this came at such a strange time...I lost my aunt in the beginning of October, she declined extremely fast and was suddenly gone. I feel a sense of emptiness and after reading your beautifully written post, I realize I'm actively grieving. Thank you for your words, it feels validating to find solace and familiarity in someone else's experience.
You have done a beautiful job of capturing her essence and of putting into words some very multidimensional feelings that are most often difficult to pin down in any way that someone else can grasp.
This is a powerful and moving exploration of your self and tribute to your aunt. As Freud noted many years ago, when we lose someone very close to us, we often internalize parts of them and metabolize them to become parts of our self. So, in a very real sense, we have not lost them, they have not ceased to exist, they have simply assumed a different form of being.
this is so beautifully written. thank you for the glimpse into your aunt. she sounds like such a joy and i get the feeling i’d always have walked away from her a bit wiser and having a new perspective on something.
there is no right way to grieve, and i hope you hold grace for yourself as you navigate your own unique journey with it. just know that you are not alone in this experience. sending love and comfort to you and your family.
I feel this deeply and toss and turn with grief constantly. I thought when my Mom passed 2 years ago that I would know grief and how to handle it. I often told my therapist, I felt I was not far enough along in my grief, month after month. The truth is, there is no timeline and the little things will become the big things. It is “normal” and I often say to those that have also shared they have lost their mom, we should make a dead moms club. Not as a joke, but as a place to just be the parentless child for a minute with others. Grief is love with nowhere to go and I truly believe that. Know many people know what you are going through, but nobody will ever know exactly your experience. That’s okay. Ask for support and tell people what it looks like. The best thing anyone ever said to me, I will say to you: this sucks. No sorry for your loss, condolences etc - of course people are! But the real ones make so excuse for how shitty you feel. Lots of care to you and your family as you all grieve in your own ways AND as a collective.
going to share this with my cousin (her daughter). I appreciate it, and I think this will really resonate with her. thank you for sharing your experience <3
This is a beautifully written piece
Wow this came at such a strange time...I lost my aunt in the beginning of October, she declined extremely fast and was suddenly gone. I feel a sense of emptiness and after reading your beautifully written post, I realize I'm actively grieving. Thank you for your words, it feels validating to find solace and familiarity in someone else's experience.
this is beautiful, vic. ♥️
You have done a beautiful job of capturing her essence and of putting into words some very multidimensional feelings that are most often difficult to pin down in any way that someone else can grasp.